Just be up front!

(first off im sorry i have not blogged in a while i have been doing other things so i promise i will get back on track)
So i was talking to my friend and she says "what do i do this guy is so boring i wanna end the convo but i don't wanna be rude! what do i do? So i started to give her all these thing to say then she's like that's good but i wanna stay online so he would know im lying! Then it hit me she is completely rite that is LYING and that's so rude! So im sitting here thinking like Everyone is put in this place one way or another... So instead of lying and making the situation way more complicated then it needs to be just be STRAIGHT FORWARD! Just say" Hey i bet your a really good guy but im just not looking for anything more then a friend ship, so if you cant respect that or your mad im sorry but i would rather be honest then lead you on and then brake it off so im really sorry but we can remain friends." You know like as bad as you will feel after saying it i bet the guy will thank you for being so honest and not sugar coating it. Some of my friends that read this know about the guy i went on a date on and rite now we are standing on a rocky boat! To be honest i wish he would just be honest with me he dose not even reply to my text anymore but that's okay his loss i just wanna be friends and little dose he know i can take the heat that's why im in the kitchen! he can be up front but whatever! Bottom line is if you just keep it 100 and stay up front the situation will be less complicated and everyone will be happy and if he's not happy at that moment he will respect you in the end for looking out for him and yourself so just be up front the result is so worth it!
xoxo virtuous girl

friends with good morals

Good friends really do have an amazing effect in your life! The kinda friends that up lift up and share the same morals. It really is nice to have friends like that because if you share the same morals/religion as them it makes things so much better. I know i got closer to ppl who share the same morals as i do and i am so happy i did because i can truly be myself i dont have to worry about being judged or anything it is such a nice feeling! When im with them i feel so happy and at peace i feel like i dont have to be anyone but myself. I just wish i went to school with some of them. when i went to girls camp i prayed that i would find more people who shared my morals and i prayed that i could have more friends like that and im so thankful my prayer got answered! Just when you think that friends dont have an effect they truly do because you just wanna fit in but with the good kind of friends friends you want you fit in just fine :) The way i see it your friends are like your older siblings in a way you look up to them they look up to you and i wanna look up to someone who shares the same morals as i do

xoxo virtuous girls

Take the shot

This blog is for a friend)

I would like to start off by saying that you can not compare any of those girls to you because they are not you , you are you. You have to learn to like yourself or no one will be able to get close to you (boywise) If this boy is interested in you and you are interested in him then you should go for it. How can you think of the bad the good hasn't even happen yet! Maybe this guy likes you because your different and you have a great personality. If he sparked interest in you then that means there was something different and he likes it! Your young run with it, if it dose not work out and you fall just know your bffs will be there to pick yo up. Remember you have to date frogs to find your prince. If you dont date any frogs then you will never know what its like you wont know how to find your prince and the frogs tell u what qualities you do and don't want. You can't just assume he would dump you for someone else maybe to him looks dont matter, dont make assumptions trust me they get you into trouble. I think that if you dont take a chance you will always wish you did. GO FOR IT! BE YOU AND IT WILL ALL WORK OUT! If he cant like you for you then hes not worth it because your not a label your you and thats all you should try to be! Take the shot if you slam dunk it great if you miss then still great at least you can walk away knowing you tried and your awesome for that! Don't find someone new because your scared if you dont do it now you never will; when the next guy comes you will get to this point and then bam sike your self out! Start here rite now! If i didnt help message me and i will keep trying
xoxo virtuous girl

what is love?

I ask myself that question all the time. I sit here and think about what it would be like to be in love. I want to know what it would be like the skip a beat with out him but have my heart beat to fast when im with him. The way i see it girls are like adomie penguins; adomie penguins spend there whole life looking for the one and when they find them they just know... i want that to happen for me. I want my first kiss to be like the whole room stops and everything is silent but rite and i know and he knows we were suppose to kiss each other and a kiss never felt so rite. I want my knees to get weak and my heart to pound and i wanna feel like that kiss was suppose to be for him. ( sorry if im lame but i dont just want to give my first kiss to anyone i wanna give it to thee one) I wonder if love was ment for everyone and if so why do ppl fall out of love , what triggers the mind to just loose attraction to the one you once loved i dont understand that? if love is such a serious and strong thing how can those feelings just go away? When i find the one or someone whos pretty close i want him to love me because im Kendall because im not a label because i can be myself because i can wear sweat pants with no make up and a messy bun and he will still think im beautiful because i am not my body i want him to love me simple because im Kendall- smart , fun, a daughter of god, beautiful, outgoing, loves church ect. I dont want to rush into love because i dont want to waist it on someone who thought it was a week long thing i know i have to date frogs in order to find my prince and i all so know a couple of toads will come a long but i dont have* to date those ones haha! Is love not being able to stand being with him but die when your a part? Is there different levels of love? i hate that these questions lie in the land of kendall unanswered. But im still young and i still have time to discover the answer.... what is love?
xoxo virtuous girl

It takes two people to dance...

Today i had a very deep conversation with one of my good friends. I learned with every choice you make there is a price to pay! Sometimes that price is not always good but that's the way life works. So i kind of been interested in this guy and i know that we are just going to stay friends, as much as i wanted it to work out sometimes staying friends is best. I'm happy that we are still able to stay friends because he is a amazing person and i would not want our friendship to be ruined because i have feelings for him. I just feel really.... dumb? in a way because i did the complete opposite of what i wanted to do witch is i fell too fast! I let my feelings take control instead of my brain, don't get me wrong i'm not heart broken i'm just sad and i guess every girl is a little sad when something with a boy dosent work out so 'im not in the complete wrong here. One thing i always do is wear my heart on my sleeve and i never put a shield on it i just let it be open and free but i need to stop doing that because i hope for the best and when things don't work out(witch they never d0) that way i don't ever prepare my heart for the bad part the...disappointment.You would seriously think i would learn by now but i guess im hard headed!!! One thing i will not do it try to make this work if he dosent want to and ruin my friend ship if he cant meet me half way then that's okay we are still friends but i will not push this push my feelings to the point were we cant even be friends. It takes two people to dance and rite now i'm okay dancing alone.... Maybe the lord is not blessing me with a great young man who loves the church and wants to go on a misstion because i need to focus on myself and what me happy. I hope when you read this post you don't feel bad for me or think the guys a jerk because hes not and its not even like that. When you read this post i want* you to learn* from me, learn not to fall fast or wear your heart on a sleeve or dont put a 100 and 10% in to something that you dont know is going to work out because with every choice you make theirs a price to pay...
xoxo virtuous girl

A chapter in my life.

I feel kind of dissapointed at the moment because i know in my heart that the guy i was interested in dose not have feelings for me, i know it just a friend level and once your in the friend zone very rarely you get out. And i know i said on my last blog that if i was in the friend zone i would be okay and i am okay but i just feel a little dissapointment because i kind of wanted it to work out. So i can sit here and mope and think about what i did wrong or i can move on with my life because there are plenty of fish in the sea the real question is how many of those fish are good fish and worth waiting for that is a question only i can answer for myself no one else. I am guilty for always striking this question apoun myself : what am i doing wrong? The answer is nothing!!! nothing at all!!! If i am being myself and im stand strong to my morals and im happy i am doing nothing wrong, so then you turn to the guy and say well what is he doing wrong and it can go both ways either he is doing something wrong and the only way to see that was threw disapointment or maybe he wasent doing anything wrong either it just was not meant to happen you were two people not meant to work out. But i will not sit here and mope because im not going to close the entierly on boys im just going to turn the page and start fresh. The best part about a book is you can always turn backwards so if this page happens to blow back my way and i read it again so be it maybe something good will happen. This is only a chapter in my life. Im not giving up though until we confront each other about and talk it out i guess i shouldent make assumptions lol it gets me into trouble maybe i should just ask him how it feels sorry i was venting guys i just wanted to get this out
xoxo virtuous young women

the number one debate with the mind

This blog is just not for my friend but for any girl! The number one debate with the mind is.... DATING! Just from this one word a young women can feel many emotions fear, excitement, ect
I don't know about anyone's religious background who is reading this but i do know in my and in anyone who shares my you have to wait until your 16. So dating is something we wait 15 yrs for witch is a long time but that's good because we have plenty of time to prepare. So when you spark interest with a guy the only human thing to think is i want to go on a date wit him rite. Now here's the hard part Asking him. To me it always sounded weird like "what! no! he is suppose to ask me rite!?" So i decided to find out if its okay for a girl to ask a guy on a date the first person i asked was my mom. She told me that it is okay to ask a guy on a date and that boys are just as nervous as girls to. And when she was younger she asked a couple boys on dates before and it most of the time worked out. She said it shows a guy that your confident that your not just going to sit around and think about what you want but you go for it. So i asked more people and i got the same answers like it depends , no he should ask you! go for it! In the end the only person who can truly answer this question is you! Do you have interest in the guy? Dose he make you smile? Do you share the same morals? If the answer is yes yes yes then go for it and if theirs one no still go for it. Because in the end its not about what everyone else wants or thinks its about what you want and think. Are you ready for a date? If you are then go for it you wont know what its like until you try the more you ask the essayer it is and more confident you get. But then comes the debate part you finally get all worked up and you wanna ask but the nerves decided to take a walk down your brain! Then you think maybe i shouldn't what if he says no! ill be so crushed! If he says no they you dust it off and move on that means he wasn't the one and the date would have been lame haha But if you do not ask i can truly say That if you do not ask you will always wish you did!!! The questions what could have should have would have happen will always pop up because you didnt try! But if you ask and he says yes then you can always remember i did it and its okay its not so bad:) and if you ask and he says no tell him okay maybe another time and move on and you should still feel awesome because you had the gutts to do it witch most girls dont! If you dont you will feel regret i hope i helped let me know if i did :)
xoxo virtuous girl